Loss of libido in men: what to do when desire falls by the wayside
MyPelvi explains what causes loss of libido in men and how you can soon experience renewed desire.
Katharina Heilen · 17 June 2026
Loss of libido in men is a topic that often remains behind closed doors. Yet it is not at all uncommon for libido to decline from time to time. MyPelvi explains what lies behind loss of libido in men and how you may soon feel renewed desire.
What controls men's desire?
Where does sexual desire in men actually come from? Male libido is influenced by several factors: physiological, psychological and lifestyle factors. The most important factors affecting male libido are:
1. Hormones
The most important factor in the male sex drive is testosterone. This hormone influences not only libido but also sperm production, muscle mass and energy levels. A deficiency can cause sexual desire to decline. But testosterone is not the only hormone that plays a role: Dopamine and serotonin: These neurotransmitters are responsible for feelings of happiness and reward. Low dopamine levels can lead to a lack of drive and desire. Oxytocin: The so-called “cuddle hormone” strengthens emotional bonding and increases the desire for closeness and intimacy. Cortisol: The stress hormone has a negative effect on libido. Chronic stress raises cortisol levels, which in turn inhibits testosterone production.
2. Pelvic floor health
Many men initially associate pelvic floor training with women and postnatal recovery, but the pelvic floor also plays a major role in male libido. Why? Better blood flow: A trained pelvic floor improves blood circulation in the genital area. This can lead to stronger and more reliable erections. Control over erection and ejaculation: A strong pelvic floor makes it easier for you to prevent premature ejaculation and improve your “performance” in bed. Support for prostate health: The pelvic floor stabilizes and relieves strain on the prostate, which plays an important role in sperm production. Did you know that it is important for men aged 45 and over to have their prostate examined every year? Greater body awareness & more intense sensations: Men who regularly do pelvic floor training often report more intense orgasms and greater body awareness. With MyPelvi pelvic floor training, you can complete your training in just 22 minutes. Thanks to innovative magnetic wave technology, even the deepest layers of your pelvic floor are reached, with no effort at all. Simply take a seat on the MyPelvi chair and sit back:
3. Diet and nutrients
Diet has a direct influence on libido. A lack of certain nutrients can reduce sexual desire: Zinc: This mineral is essential for testosterone production and sperm quality. Foods rich in zinc include pumpkin seeds and organic beef. Vitamin D: Low vitamin D levels are associated with testosterone deficiency and loss of libido. Getting some sun or eating salmon and eggs can help! L-arginine: This amino acid promotes blood flow and may therefore support better erections. It is found in nuts, organic poultry and soya beans. Omega-3 fatty acids: Omega-3 fatty acids are important for hormone production and controlling inflammation in your body. They are found in oily fish such as salmon, flaxseed and walnuts.
4. Stress and mental wellbeing
Physical symptoms are not the only possible cause of loss of libido in men. Psychological strain is also one of the most common reasons. Stress, anxiety or emotional conflicts can block desire: Chronic stress: Persistently elevated cortisol levels reduce testosterone production. Performance pressure in bed: Those who focus too much on “performance” often lose their natural desire. Depression & anxiety disorders: Mental health conditions can seriously impair libido. Therapy can help in such cases.
5. Exercise and fitness
Regular physical activity has an enormously positive effect on your libido. Strength training and MyPelvi pelvic floor training in particular stimulate testosterone production and increase desire. The benefits of exercise for your libido: Better blood flow: Blood circulation is important for a stable erection. Higher testosterone levels: Intensive strength training stimulates testosterone production, which also contributes to muscle growth. Reduction in stress and anxiety: Exercise promotes the release of feel-good hormones and can reduce stress and even anxiety. With MyPelvi, you have the solution for the most effective and efficient pelvic floor training. It is simple: Just sit down on the MyPelvi chair and let the magnetic waves do their work. The 25,000 pulses per session are delivered automatically, so you do not have to exert yourself and can simply sit back. Give it a try:
6. Emotional bonding
Emotional closeness can increase desire, while unresolved conflicts or boredom may inhibit libido. You may now be wondering how you can create emotional closeness. Shared experiences and good communication within the relationship are therefore essential for a fulfilling love life. That means listening, expressing needs respectfully and creating experiences that connect you.
When is men's libido at its strongest – and when does it decline?
Libido can change over the course of your life, and that is completely normal! The reason is that it is influenced by hormones, lifestyle, physical health and fitness. Testosterone levels play a central role, for example, but pelvic floor health is also crucial for stable sexual function.
20-30 years: During this phase, most men experience their libido most strongly because testosterone levels have reached their peak. A strong pelvic floor supports firm erections and good control over ejaculation. From 30 years: Testosterone levels begin to decline slowly (approx. 1 % per year). Stress, diet and a lack of exercise can accelerate this process. Muscle mass also begins to decrease slowly from this point. A trained pelvic floor helps promote blood flow in the genital area and maintain sexual performance. 40-50 years: Loss of libido may become more noticeable, as hormonal changes and weaker blood flow lead to slower recovery times and erectile problems. Due to the natural ageing process, muscle mass is lower than it was 10 years earlier. Regular pelvic floor training can counteract this and improve sexual control. 60+ years: Sexual desire remains, but often changes. Good physical condition, mental openness and targeted pelvic floor training can improve erectile function and desire.
Loss of libido: why does desire fade, and does it eventually disappear completely?
Male libido is not constant; it changes due to hormonal, psychological and physical factors. While testosterone plays a crucial role, lifestyle, stress, diet and pelvic floor health also influence sexual desire.
Typical reasons for declining desire in men
Declining testosterone levels: As men age, production of the male sex hormone decreases, which can reduce desire. Stress & mental strain: High cortisol levels (the stress hormone) inhibit libido and can even reduce testosterone. Weaker blood circulation: Poor circulation leads to reduced sensitivity and makes erections more difficult. Weakened pelvic floor: A weak pelvic floor can lead to erectile dysfunction and loss of control over ejaculation. Pelvic floor operations: Pelvic operations are among the most common causes of organic sexual dysfunction in men [1]. Unhealthy lifestyle: Lack of exercise, excess weight, smoking and alcohol have a negative effect on libido. Hormonal or medical causes: Diabetes, high blood pressure or testosterone deficiency can greatly reduce desire.
Does libido ever stop completely?
Desire does not disappear completely, but it changes. Men over 60 can also have a fulfilling sex life if they actively take care of their physical and mental health.
Is your body missing something? Deficiency as a desire killer
A low testosterone level is a common cause of loss of libido. However, vitamin D deficiency and zinc and iron deficiencies can also play a role. These nutrients are essential for hormone production. Anyone who gets little sunlight or has an unbalanced diet may have deficiencies in these areas.
What should you do when desire is gone? Natural libido boosters for men
When libido declines, hormonal, psychological and physical factors often play a role. The good news is that there are many ways to restore desire. Pelvic floor training with MyPelvi in particular can play a key role.
1. Strengthen your pelvic floor with targeted training
A trained pelvic floor improves blood circulation, supports erections and increases sexual sensation. With MyPelvi, the muscles can be activated simply and effectively. Strong pelvic floor muscles support better erections. Pelvic floor training increases circulation in the intimate area and sensitivity. Pelvic floor training improves control over ejaculation and provides greater stamina. During the 22-minute sessions, your pelvic floor muscles contract up to 25.000 times. This happens thanks to state-of-the-art magnetic wave technology and is as effective as no other pelvic floor training. The best thing? You do not even have to exert yourself:
2. Boosting testosterone naturally
Balanced hormone levels are crucial for a healthy libido. Strength training and regular exercise promote testosterone production. Sufficient sleep stabilises hormone levels. Reducing stress prevents high cortisol levels that inhibit desire.
3. Adjusting your diet mindfully
Certain nutrients support libido and overall well-being. Zinc-rich foods like nuts, eggs, and fish promote better testosterone production. L-Arginine from nuts and meat enhances blood flow. Dark chocolate, ginger, and spicy spices act as natural libido boosters.
4. Overcoming mental blocks
Loss of libido often has psychological causes too, which can be improved through conscious changes. Open communication with your partner can reduce pressure and insecurities. Mindfulness and relaxation techniques can reduce stress. Physical closeness without the immediate expectation of sex can stimulate desire. Pelvic floor training with MyPelvi in particular can help activate sexual energy and improve the experience of desire over the long term.
Conclusion: pelvic floor training as the key to male desire
Natural libido boosters such as pelvic floor training with MyPelvi, a healthy diet, regular exercise and stress reduction can help increase sexual desire and maintain libido. Targeted pelvic floor training in particular is an effective way to support sexual performance and feelings of desire. Loss of libido is no longer a taboo or a reason to panic. Listen to your body; it gives you the best signals! A medical assessment is advisable if the loss of libido persists.
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